SurvivingInfidelity.com^®

I feel like we could use a forum for longer-term reconciliation folks. Past the 2-5 years of recovery. I'm in a place where we're mostly great. Finally, we argue about normal things, like money and family. And yet....the A still pops up for me. Not something that I mention, but certainly something that is in the back of my mind as we navigate normal again.

Ladybugmaam,

Great idea.

My spouse and I are long-haulers in this recovery process (35 years post D-day) and I want to go on record of being in strong support of a forum for individuals/couples who are years or even decades into rebuilding, reshaping, reimagining their once shattered marriage. I know my issues today are not the issues that tore my heart out, devastating my self-confidence and warped my views on life once the shock of finding out about my wife's affair. I am also become painfully aware that my advice is not wise advice for those in the early years so I have grown quiet. But I do believe I have something of value to offer as well as to gain from other long-haulers. I hope SI gives your request deep thought and consideration.

Asterisk

This is the right place. It would probably be great to see more posts of "my otherwise mundane marriage issue with a sprinkle of betrayal trauma" but we are here.

I think many of us slow way down in our posting when things calm down for us.

I think the taint is worst for me when we talk about commitment and honesty to our kids. Like obviously I know she values it, and it's the right value. But when you make such a horrible lapse, it just kinda stings when the topic comes up.

I would also be interested in a forum for that. I think traffic would be slow, but I would be ok with that.