gr8ful ( member #58180) posted at 7:38 PM on Wednesday, October 28th, 2026
Re telling OBS: I'm considering asking a trusted friend to do some digging for me. I did some digging, but I don't even know her name. AP has made his FB friends list private (I'm willing to bet he did that very recently), so no luck there.
Make it a condition for you to even *consider* R that she must fully disclose AP’s name, and absolutely everything else she knows about him to you. You could send a certified letter addressed to OBS that must be delivered into her hands. If you’re motivated, you can find a way. Hoping you don’t make the mistake so many do by protecting the AP by keeping silent. It’s also one of the very best things you can do to ensure this treason doesn’t start back up. Don’t learn the hard way. Inform OBS.
Sharkman ( member #56818) posted at 8:04 PM on Wednesday, October 28th, 2026
She’ll just warn him, though. Pay the $20 from spokeo or whatever people use these days. The details are all public, sometimes they just aren’t in the first place that we check.
