My mind is still struggling to process it....

This all happened so fast and I am truly not sure how to process it.

We're currently moving out of state and my friends have been helping me pack and prepare for the journey ahead. One of them came across an old mobile phone that my husband had been desperately looking for a few months ago. He told me he had important work notes saved in there and I had no reason to doubt him. I have always felt he was nothing but honest with me but looking back, I do remember him trying his best to keep me busy while he was conducting a search of the house. He would not accept my help on the grounds that he could manage and that I must already be tired from the kids. So utterly sly of him.

Well when I was given the phone, I thought as a prank I would read the notes and simply slyly quote them to him in conversation and when he made the connection, I'd give him the phone. There was no password on the device.

However, the moment I unlocked it, it automatically connected to the Wi-Fi and I saw over 500 unread messages on an dating app which I think is targeting those seeking an open relationship. I looked through the messages and in each and every one of them he had said "I am in an open marriage". I had hoped it would merely end with messages but the more I read, the more I saw phone numbers, and addresses and I can't stomach reading any more.

I don't even know how to process this. My life feels completely shattered. the span of the affairs seems to be over a year at the minimum but potentially longer. This is certainly no mistake. Everything feels like a lie. The foundation I have built my life on in the last decade has just been pulled from under me...

8 comments posted: Saturday, September 21st, 2024