Me: BH 40
Her: WW 32
2 Children
D-Day: 5/24/26
Separating, I guess
What do I do?
Found out that my fiancée/partner of 5+ years had an emotional affair with a married man from a phone game she was playing for about a month. I told his wife. They’re divorcing. My fiancée ended it with him. I did the usual: if I am going to stay, I need full transparency, access, therapy, etc. Every 3-5 days, she says she can’t do it anymore and ends things only to come back and say she wants to try again. Same thing happened today but it doesn’t seem like she is coming back around this time. Remorse was never strong but it seems like she just switched it off today. I’m worried for the kids. I don’t want them to grow up with two homes and I think we could be really strong if she gets IC and we do couples therapy. I’m just… lost. I’ve put up with a lot over the past few years…and now this. If it weren’t for the kids, I would have left a long time ago. What do I do?
5 comments posted: Monday, June 15th, 2026
