Smokey15 (original poster new member #87112) posted at 10:20 PM on Saturday, June 13th, 2026
Hi I'm in the UK and starting the process of mediation and then divorce. Found out 15 weeks ago husband was having an affair (whilst I was 12 weeks pregnant and we have a 3 year old). He was telling me he wanted to make things work again but then 2 weeks ago I found out he has been continuing to see the affair partner. So that's when I made the decision we are over for good. I am now 27 weeks pregnant and had my mediation assessment yesterday. It is all just so overwhelming and I can't get my head around how it is all going to work with the house etc when I am going to be giving birth in a few months time. I don't really have a question as such just looking for solidarity as I am finding myself lying here in bed crying again.
BearlyBreathing ( member #55075) posted at 8:32 AM on Sunday, June 14th, 2026
So sorry you were going through this. You are not alone, even though it is a very lonely process. I hope you have a good lawyer who’s helping you through this and are reaching out to people in real life who can support you. But in the end, it’s just really hard.
Sending Support and lots of virtual (((hugs))).
Me: BS 57 (49 on d-day)Him: *who cares ;-) *. D-Day 8/15/2016 LTA. Kinda liking my new life :-)
**horrible typist, lots of edits to correct. :-/ **
NoThanksForTheMemories ( member #83278) posted at 6:18 AM on Monday, June 15th, 2026
I'm so sorry, Smokey. 27 weeks pregnant and starting mediation is a really difficult place to be. 15 weeks from dday and 2 weeks from dday2 - I remember how raw my emotions were at that point. Plus third trimester hormones and birthing in your future. My heart goes out to you.
Please be as kind and loving to yourself as possible. The next year will be hard, but life will eventually get easier and better. Is there anyone you can call on - a friend or family member - who has a shoulder you can cry on? Or just for some hugs?
We're here for you virtually, holding you up as best we can.
WS had a 3 yr EA+PA from 2020-2022, and an EA 10 years ago (different AP). Dday1 Nov 2022. Dday4 Sep 2023. False R for 2.5 months. 30 years together. Divorcing.
