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Though reminders persist, over time, my wife and I have found that through years of kindness and hard work, they were less often and less painful. However, that said, reminders lurk, just waiting, like a bully’s cruel taunt, to rip one’s tranquility to shreds.

Where, for us, reminders lay-in-wait is on the TV screen. Knowing there is no escaping this fact we devised a fun and sensual retort.

Whenever a move script turns to a moment of sexual betrayal, we embrace and give each other the deepest and most passionate kiss, overpowering the TV’s haunt. We have found that instead of sitting in a quite state of mutual discomfort we, by this simple act have turned an otherwise distressful moment into a statement of love and commitment.

How does that make you feel? Does it totally resolve the trigger? Are you forcing it? Do you feel mixed?

Are you sharing this with the goal of helping others or getting feedback?

Thank you InHulk for your questions. I will attempt to answer them.

How does that make you feel?

Honestly, really good.

Does it totally resolve the trigger?

That is an interesting question. The affair was decades ago so there really isn’t much that triggers me anymore. I don’t think what my wife and I have chosen to do would be at all helpful if either of us were "triggered". But that is not to say that when reminders of infidelity occur that we don’t feel a bit of the sting.

Are you forcing it?

No, not at all and I don’t think my wife is either.

Do you feel mixed?

No, not at all. I feel, for us, it was a great way to face down demons.

Are you sharing this with the goal of helping others or getting feedback?

I believe that both were my desire. I know that not every way a couple approaches healing works for everyone. In fact, that is why I read what others do to trudge through the smelly marsh called infidelity. Both to learn and to offer what little help I may.

I think this is really nice and thank you for sharing it. It seems like especially helpful for people over the ten year mark.

Thank you, CantBeMeEither

That was my hope. Not every tool in the toolbox fixes ever issue, but having an assortment, for the particulars, is stress reducing. I'll be honest, I was a bit fearful that this post was off-putting. That was not my desire.

I love this idea.

Ladybugmaam

I love this idea.

You have no idea how good that makes me feel. If you chose to try it, I hope for you and your spouse (if you are still together.) the same outcome that my wife and I have had with this idea.