AB5151 ( new member #45885) posted at 11:15 PM on Sunday, October 27th, 2024
Bump so I can find this post again 馃檶馃檶
ME: 30 WS:31 DDay 12/6/14
Sky Above me. Earth Below me. Fire Within me.
Drix ( new member #84672) posted at 10:05 PM on Thursday, October 31st, 2024
@Brittn
Honestly, he was her Area manager at her work they grew close complaining about their spouse's.
Brittn ( member #84766) posted at 7:42 PM on Friday, November 1st, 2024
@Drix , Yeah, women, perhaps are attracted to the power or position of the job? They can def overlook the AP鈥檚 unattractiveness. My wife鈥檚 AP was an older coworker, at a job, a lot worse than mine, but, he was a good looking guy and primed her pump dancing with her at a work event. Apparently had the moves (a latin guy). I think she was just physically attracted and excited. Her only (legit) serious BF other than me was tall, but so ugly. It鈥檚 a mystery. Btw, mine denied her infidelity for years as well. Confessing only this year. Lied in Couples counseling even, back then. Might still be fudging the truth. You and I prob can鈥檛 get full truth this far out. At least you know that your guy was fat and ugly. ;). My wife鈥檚 AP may have outdone me for all I know.
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leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 9:09 AM on Wednesday, December 4th, 2024
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 1:15 AM on Wednesday, December 18th, 2024
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
Bigger ( Attach茅 #8354) posted at 2:59 PM on Wednesday, December 25th, 2024
"If, therefore, any be unhappy, let him remember that he is unhappy by reason of himself alone." Epictetus
Decorum ( member #47744) posted at 5:48 AM on Thursday, December 26th, 2024
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 12:23 AM on Wednesday, January 15th, 2025
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 12:18 AM on Monday, February 10th, 2025
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 10:45 PM on Sunday, March 2nd, 2025
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 4:38 AM on Tuesday, March 18th, 2025
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
nekorb ( member #40306) posted at 12:41 AM on Wednesday, March 19th, 2025
Ohhh this is so true!
One of the funniest things my son ever said about the whole situation when I reminded him "they always affair down" was ,"If down was a set of stairs, dad fell all the way to the basement!". Or something to that effect. Gave me a laugh at the time.
Stay on the high road, friends! Do not jump into their pit with them.
Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 12:42 PM on Sunday, April 13th, 2025
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
Lostwings ( member #79902) posted at 6:30 PM on Saturday, May 3rd, 2025
I felt humiliated when I saw the picture of the OW.
Reading this thread , I finally understand why !!
Thank you Edie and thank you to all who contributed in this thread .
I thought it was love at the end of the rainbow , but a banshee came and almost destroyed my pot of gold . In R.
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 4:57 AM on Thursday, May 29th, 2025
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
Beeblah ( new member #86279) posted at 6:14 PM on Friday, June 20th, 2025
I love this 馃挜馃檹馃徎馃挄 I've been on both sides and this rings so true
D day June 2022
Got married April 2024
Long road to recovery. We are mostly there with occasional bumps x
Swims ( member #30992) posted at 8:07 PM on Friday, July 18th, 2025
Re reading this post after about 15 years. So spot on!
leafields ( Guide #63517) posted at 6:37 PM on Friday, September 12th, 2025
BW M 34years, Dday 1: March 2018, Dday 2: August 2019, D final 2/25/21
alwayslove ( member #86533) posted at 6:28 AM on Saturday, September 13th, 2025
This is an insightful note. It gets right to the heart of the matter, capturing the true essence of an affair and how the third parties involved are often the most pathetic.
