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Years of infidelity and decades of dishonesty have destroyed my life. I am unable to cope, and professional help has been useless. I was recently diagnosed with Parkinson's disease, and I'm having great difficulty with looping—obsessing and ruminating all day about her infidelity. The pain is unbearable.

Dear man, the way you describe a situation, the words you use, influence how you perceive it. I urge you to be careful.

I ask you, is it possible to say that lies and betrayal have stained many years of your past? Is it possible for you to say that the next years can be unmarred by that stain? Can you find hope? I have, I want it for you.

I am not trying to be trite. Your pain is real. I’m so sorry for your diagnosis. I hope medical advances in medicine and medical devices can bring you relief. But giving in to despair can kill the soul. There is healing to be had, truly.

[This message edited by InkHulk at 2:38 AM, Wednesday, April 29th]

Infidelity is hard, and to add a medical issue on top, well, that is rough. I am so sorry you are going through this.

Are you in IC? I found IC helped me a lot. I still had some strong PTSD-like issues and sought some alternative therapies like those they are doing medical trials with for veterans. Explore ALL the options you can - EMDR, therapy, anti-depressants— whatever it takes. When you say professional help has been useless- what help and why useless?

This stuff is so so hard. But you can get through it. Just keep going, one day at a time. (Honestly, for a while I was one hour at time… but just get to the next hour, the next day.).